When wanting to make your ex girlfriend jealous, you can be wanting to do it in order to get her back or you can be just trying to make her wish she could get your back after she dumped you. Either way, there are many different techniques that can be deployed in order to get her attention, subtly or not so subtly, in order to lay a path to her jealousy.
How Does Jealousy Work?
Jealousy with women works often times in quite subtle ways. Women can get very protective of their love or affections for you, even when they have ended a relationship on their own terms. Even though she may have made the break, quite often she still wants to keep one foot in the door.
She may want to keep up to date with what is going on in your life. Talking to your friends all casual, trying to find out how cut up you are about the break up and what you are up to now.
When dealing with her directly, you want to play it cool. Acting indifferent, or playing down how things are today, may make her think you were not that into her and makes her wonder why. She may also get the idea that you have other things going on, and that can make her curious initially and later jealous at what your life is now.
Is She Missing Out?
Rather than put an an attitude and be a jerk in your behavior towards her, it is best to be the bigger person. If she is to consider and get her head around going back with you, she has to think: What is in it for me and different from the last time with him? If you are just being obnoxious because you have hurt feelings, then you will only succeed in making her mad. Even though this may feel good for a short time, you will fail to make her jealous of you that way.
When living your private life, you want to do it in a laid back way. Girls always like a guy that they would describe as laid back. Oddly, they also usually want a guy that makes a lot money in a hard charging career and has ambition, which is the opposite of laid back. But these are some of the illogical stuff you deal with when dating women.
When you are hanging out, just enjoy yourself. Spend time with your old friends and make it clear that you are enjoying yourself. Your new freedom can feel like a release, so let loose and have a good time. Do not over do it with the alcohol, but just enjoy yourself.
When word gets around that you are really happy and having fun, she will hear this through your mutual network of friends and wonder why you are so happy all of a sudden? Women like to dress up, go out and have a great time. With their man or with the girls. Often in a relationship the sparks have gone, the two people stop smiling and enjoying life that much. When she hears that you are having fun it will remind her what things were like at the beginning and that you were one fun guy to be around. This will make her feel like she is missing out.
Make Her Think About You
When you are out, you are now relaxed and not thinking about her too much. This helps you get over things with her. You can be more outgoing and social, but be sure to be a little more reserved when she is in your company so that you do not give too much away. This will make her want to learn more about what you have been up to, especially if you are being purposely vague with her. If you have previously always been very open about yourself, then this will be a change she has to adjust to and will irk her a little bit. If you do it in a perfectly pleasant way, with a smile, then she will not think you are being nasty about it, but just keeping your distance.
If she still likes you at all, she will start becoming more and more curious about what is happening in your life. Being shut out will not feel good to her. Even though she did it herself if she ended things with you, she will still irrationally expect access to your feelings and what is going on in your life, even though she should have no right to that personal information anymore.
Seeing Another Woman
For you, it is a good time to raise the ante by meeting other women online or in social settings. These can be simply platonic meet ups, that may not actually lead to a date and a full blown relationship.
If you are serious about making your ex girlfriend jealous so that you can get back together, then you will not want to start a new full blown relationship. However, if you only want to make her feel bad and have no intention of ever going back to her, then you could enter into new relationship. The point is, whilst you may have good or negative feelings towards your ex girlfriend, it is unfair to start something new with another lady, only to dump her if you got back with your ex girlfriend. This happens all the time and it is very hurtful to the new lady in your life.
When going on dates, if you live in a place where it is small enough to spot friends out on dates around town, then you can start to use these social meet ups to your advantage. When meeting ladies for a drinks or a bite to eat, see if you can find some nice places where they have a terrace or a seating area outside in public. This way many of your friend, your ex girlfriend’s friends, or mutual friends might see you out with this new woman and wonder who she is.
If you are able to arrange a number of such meetings, either with the same women or with several, then all for the better. This increases the fun you are having anyway, but it also considerably increases the chances that your ex girlfriend or friends will see you. If it is the latter, then the gossips will start to talk, spreading the word, and word will get back to your ex very fast.
How Your Ex Girlfriend May Respond
She will likely want to call you directly to ask you about it, but she will most likely not do this because she knows it will not be received well. She will talk with her friends and see what they think about things.
She will likely have a number of new feelings and one of these will be a jealousy of your new life without her and quite likely a desire to get you back.
The ex girlfriend will very likely start to show up at the same events as you, play tennis at the same court that you do and do whatever she can to “innocently” bump into you. She will most likely try to do this when you alone or at least, not with the new flame in your life.
When this happens, you will notice that she had made an effort to look her best. Her hair will be newly styled (perhaps in a new more attractive look), her clothes may also be new and she will possibly be sporting a look that she knows you like. If you like black boots and she knows that, then do not be surprised to discover her wearing a new pair of them. She will pull out all the stops, to be appealing to you.
Beyond this, the conversation she will want to have will be casual in a lot of cases, rather than throwing herself at you. It may come across as confessional that she made a big mistake ending the relationship with you. She may well be flirtatious at some stages in the “surprise” meeting. She will want to see if she can still catch you eye and make you want her.
What you do at this stage depends on your motives. You can let her down easy, like you planned to do all along, leaving her to sit in her emotions like she left you. Or you can decide whether you wish to take her back. Taking her back too quickly may make her feel like she can roll over on your again later on, so you may want to think about it, and maybe set some new terms on things she did before that you did not like in her behavior or her character. She may agree to such terms in order to get you back, but do not push it too far as she will not likely actually deliver on those promises once back in the relationship. Things tend to go back to the way they were, a familiar groove, once things start up again. At that stage, all bets are off.