Love is complicated. If you want to know how to make someone fall in love with you, you first need to have an understanding of who you are and what it is you love about yourself. The more you understand what there is to love about who you are as a person, the easier it will be to find someone who loves those things too. Accepting your faults and working on changing the things you don’t like about yourself is really the first step to finding true love. Let’s say you’ve done all that. You’re happy with yourself and have met someone you want to share your life with. There are a few tips that can help you figure out how to make someone fall in love with you but it’s important to remember that none of these tips are guaranteed. You can’t force someone to fall in love with you. These are merely tips on how to increase your chances. Let’s dive in.
10: Don’t try to force their feelings.
As much as we’d sometimes like to believe it’s possible to make anyone fall in love with us whenever we want that just isn’t true. I’m sure there are products out there on the market that would try to convince you otherwise but the simple fact is that sometimes two people just aren’t compatible. If you try to brow beat someone into loving you, you’re only going to drive them further away. There are lots of ways to try to subtle influence how someone feels but the bottom line is that if they don’t feel it, they don’t feel it. You need to accept that.
09: Be friends with their friends.
I can’t speak much about what men are like when they’re alone doing guy things but when a girl is interested in a guy, she talks to her friends about him. Based on what my husband’s told me over the years, I have to assume men are the same way. Regardless, befriending the people the object of your affection is friends with is a great way to score more time with the person you want to be with. You don’t have to become best friends. Just let them get to know you. If their friends like you, there’s a much better chance that they will too.
08: Talk about things the object of your affection is interested in.
You don’t have to ignore your own interests if you’re trying to make someone fall in love with you. You just have to make sure you’re not ignoring their interests in the process. People like to talk about things that they’re interested in. The object of your affection is probably no different. Talking about their interests could bring up a mutual interest you both enjoy talking about. Even if that isn’t the case, you’ll learn more about the person you’re interested in and might even find a fun new activity you can enjoy together.
07: Don’t try to buy their affection with gifts
Some people respond to big lavish gifts. Most don’t – especially if they weren’t interested in you to begin with. Whenever I think about this one, I’m reminded of a person I once knew that had a bit of a crush on me. He was a nice guy, good looking and seemed to get along really well with my friends. The problem? He constantly showed off his wallet and talked about how much money he made. If the person you’re interested in responds to the lavish gifts and shows of affluence, they’re not in love with you. They’re in love with your bank account. If that’s what you’re looking for then by all means, do it. I don’t judge. But if you’re looking for someone that will actually love you as a person, leave the fancy gifts for after you’re together as a couple.
06: Don’t be taken advantage of.
Sometimes people will know someone in interested in them and will take advantage of that. A shocking number of people allow that to happen, even if they see that’s what’s happening. Don’t be one of those people. If someone is trying to take advantage of their feelings for you, you need to put your foot down. If the person is worth your time, they’ll respect that. If not, as much as it hurts, you need to recognize they weren’t interested in you as a person but were interested in what you could do for them.
05: Don’t crowd them.
Don’t be afraid to have a life. Spend time with them when you can but don’t abandon your own friends or your work responsibilities to be with them. Don’t drop everything to meet them. If you have plans and they call you at the last minute to do something together, keep the plans you originally had. It shows that you have a backbone but it also shows that you have a life outside of your relationship with them.
04: Invite them out to do fun things.
If you’re going out to dinner or a movie with your friends, ask them to come along. Hanging out casually among a group of friends or even hanging out casually just the two of you will allow you to get to know them but more importantly, it will allow them to get to know you. You don’t have to put the label ‘date’ on everything. Just spend time doing something you’re both interested in and in time, you’ll form a connection.
03: Let your feelings be known.
Have the guts to let them know how you feel about them but be prepared to accept they may not feel the same way. If you just sit back and wait for them to make the first move, you could lose them. Speak up. Tell them how you feel but don’t back off. You need to be honest, open and forward. Don’t leave room for guessing. Some people just don’t see how much someone cares for them. They might not pick up on subtle gestures. Being direct and clearly stating how you feel puts the ball in their court and that’s where you want it to be.
02: Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t.
If you change who you are to try to suit someone else, they aren’t falling in love with you. They’re falling in love with the person they think you are. Eventually they’ll see who you really are – a person can’t fake it forever – and then you’ll have to deal with the ramifications. Being honest about yourself from the start is the best way of giving someone the chance to fall in love with you. If you’re honest from the beginning, it also makes things far less complicated down the road and increases your chances of having a long and happy relationship.
01: Relax and be confident.
A little confidence can go a long way and it’s very hard to be confident when you’re shaking in your boots. Love is scary and crazy and overwhelming but try to keep those nerves under control. Relax when you’re with the object of your affection. There’s no better way to connect with someone than to have a normal, casual conversation. If you’re having a really hard time relaxing, remember that you’re no better and no worse than the person you’re interested in. You’re both just two people trying to make a connection with one another. Remember that and you should be fine.