Understanding the BDSM in 50 Shades of Grey

With the sudden popularity of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey comes, a lot of people have become more aware and fascinated with “BDSM” – a type of sexual act that comes with bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism.

The intense and graphic writing style of E.L. James has skyrocketed The Shades Trilogy to greater heights. It also helps that the Fifty Shades of Grey movie became popular around the worldAlthough it is amazing that the novel took the world by the storm, it can also be a little bit unsettling how the book and movie portrayed BDSM. For people who are not really knowledgeable with this type of sexual play, they may get the wrong and inaccurate impression of BDSM. For fans of E.L. James, it is vital that you know the difference between fact and fiction. In this post, we debunk popular BDSM myths from the Shades trilogy.

50

  1. Dominants are extremely abusive

While there is some rough play in this sexual act, it doesn’t mean that a dominator or dominatrix is brutally heartless. In fact, they care for the physical and emotional well-being of their submissive. These people practice a level of control to make sure that their partner enjoys what they’re doing without compromising their safety. That’s why they use safety words when they do it.

  1. The Dominant is always in control

This is also fiction. A dominator’s task is to fulfill the needs of his partner – that’s the thing that makes it pleasurable. The star that controls the show is always the submissive. Partners who practice this act also abide by a set of rules to ensure their safety. Before doing anything, they make careful negotiations to prevent accidents.

  1. All submissives have low self-esteem

This people give up control because they know they can handle it. Only emotionally strong individuals can let go and entrust him or her to a dominator. For people who enjoy this activity, being submissive can be quite sexy and erotic. After a busy and tiring day of handling employees, creating big decisions, or taking care of the kids, being the big boos can really be tiresome. Sometimes, letting others take control can also be relaxing.

  1. BDSM is all about pain and suffering

This activity is not always about pain. It is more of an exchange of power between the dominator and the submissive. It is not about hurting, humiliating, or doing things that you are not comfortable with. Slight pain is inflicted sometimes to pump up the adrenaline production, thus making the act more pleasurable. However, it doesn’t mean that you always need pain in order to enjoy BDSM.

Comments? Thoughts? Feel free to join the discussions below!

LEAVE A REPLY