How much easier were things when we were kids? We weren’t worried about money because money had no meaning to us. Our parents did their best to give us what we needed and boy, didn’t we take that for granted. Summer vacation was something to look for – two months with nothing to do but have fun and be young. If you wanted to know if a boy liked you, you simply had to get your friend to give him a note that read, “Do you like me? Check yes or no.” How innocent and sweet!
Things are decidedly more difficult as adults. Trying to decode what the man in your life is telling you can be difficult and it’s easy to misread signals. Things that seem bad aren’t always bad. Things that seem good aren’t always good. Should you continue to pursue him or are you chasing a fantasy? Here are ten signs that the object of your affection is into you like you’re into him.
10: He notices little things about you.
Perhaps he notices when you do something different with your hair. Perhaps he just notices that you smile a particular way when you find something funny that’s different from the way you smile when you’re just being polite. He might notice the little subtle differences in your mood – when you’re happy instead of just okay or when you’re feeling a little under the weather. If you’re friends don’t notice, but he does – there’s a good chance he’s into you.
09: He compliments things other people don’t compliment.
Let’s say you have a nice body and people are always complimenting that body. If the object of your affection drops a compliment about your eyes or your hair, you’ll definitely notice. Chances are, he knows you have a nice body but is he trying to find a way to set himself apart from the other guys that offer compliments. Maybe he compliments an idea you have or a certain choice of words. If he compliments your mind, he appreciates who you are inside and not just out.
08: He goes out of his way to talk to you.
Sure he might stop and chat if he sees you in the grocery store or at a bar, but does he go out of his way to talk to you? Does he call you? Does he visit at work? Anything that requires extra effort on his part to get a little of your time can be considered going out of his way to talk to you. The further out of his way he’ll go, the more into you he likely is. This doesn’t count if he always asks about your best friend or your sister. He might be seeking you out for a whole other reason.
07: He calls you on a regular basis just to talk.
There’s plenty of guys out there who’ll call you to hang out. We call those guys friends. If the object of your affection calls you up to just chit chat without any real clear purpose, he likes hearing your voice and he misses having you around enough to call you up. If he’s calling to discuss problems all the time, you’re just a friend, but if he just wants to talk about what you’re up to and what he’s up to without asking anything of you or getting into a phone therapy session, he’s probably into you.
06: He gets angry or upset with how other people treat you.
If someone is harassing you, threatening you, or beating you around, your friends are going to be upset no matter what. Heck, I don’t know most of you reading this, and I’m upset for you. What you’re looking for here is a guy that gets upset if someone isn’t treating you up to his standards. If he thinks you deserve to be treated like a queen, there’s a pretty good chance your affection is reciprocated.
05: He buys you thoughtful little gifts for no reason.
He doesn’t have to lavish you with expensive gifts of gold and diamonds to let his intentions be known. If he’s out somewhere and sees a little something that makes him think of you and he actually picks it up for you and offers it as a random gift, you probably have an admirer. If he does this for all of his friends, he’s probably just a generous kind of guy. Vacation, birthday or Christmas presents don’t count unless it’s something way out of the ordinary that no guy would give a girl he thinks of as ‘just a friend’. Consult your other friends on this one.
04: He touches you in an affectionate but not sexual way.
Don’t take a guy grabbing your caboose as a sign he wants to settle down with you. If he’s grabbing your bum but you’re not sure he’s interested in you in a romantic way, it’s pretty safe to assume he wanted to do something with you, but that likely doesn’t include a wedding ring or anything even close to that. If you’re looking for a fling, then go for it. All the more power to you. If the object of your affection’s content with putting his arm around you, touching your hands and maybe even brushing your hair out of your face, there is a very good chance that he likes you in more than a friendly sort of way.
03: He dresses up to spend time with you.
We’re not talking suits and ties here, ladies – at least not exclusively. More than that though, don’t assume he isn’t into you if he doesn’t dress up. Some guys are just t-shirt and jeans kind of guys. My husband is. He didn’t even wear a suit to our wedding and I love that about him. This more refers to a guy that normally takes a more relaxed approach to their appearance who suddenly seems to be paying a little more attention to it. If he’s brushing his hair when he’s more of a messy hair kinda guy there’s a good chance he’s into you.
02: He takes a special interest in things you’re interested in.
Do you like music? Does the object of your affection suddenly want to know more about music? There’s a good chance he’s into you. If he’s brushing up on the bands you’re interested in (the same can be said for movies, books, sports etc), he wants to have something he can talk to you about. Take this as a definite good sign – especially if he starts recommending things to you. It doesn’t matter if its something you’ve heard of. It’s the thought that counts. He’s trying to find common ground – not something many people will do with people they just consider friends.
01: He really listens when you talk, even if you’re not saying much.
If you’re telling a long, rambling story (come on, we’ve all done it. I even make a living doing it) but he is hanging on every word, there is a more than decent chance he’s interested in more than friendship. Listening shows that he’s interested in what you have to say; not just waiting for your turn to talk. How much he listens is a pretty good indication of how interested he is. If your talking about buying toothpaste and he is reacting like it’s the most wildly enthralling story he’s heard since you bought deodorant, he’s definitely into you – way into you.
If you’ve been reading over this list saying, “He’s done that” and “He does that all the time”, stop worrying about whether or not he likes you. He clearly does. Get the ball rolling. Let him know you like him too. You don’t have to wait for him to make his move. Tell him you’re interested and let things progress from there.